• Phoebe Adams

Here we go, baby!

Updated: Mar 7, 2018

I've decided to consider this week as the beginning of my (in)fertility journey.

Monday, 19 February 2018. Mark that date in your calendar friends, we're on our way!

It's not actually the beginning, but who's counting. This is us "Oh, hey!":

Beatrix on the left is our nine year old cherub, that's me in the middle, and that's Toby on the right.

This is the day we renewed our wedding vows, arguably one of the best days of our lives.

On this day we decided that we were entering a new marriage where we would have each other's backs, no matter what. And we have! I love my beautiful little family so much.


So, about our (in)fertility journey. Well, 2018 is the year of the baby. I've called it that because I am working really hard on clearing out everything that's toxic and holding me back while building up the good things that will make a difference. Blah blah, what does that mean?


1) I've decided to be kind to myself.

If I feel like having a nap, I'm gonna have a nap. If I feel like eating chocolate (which fortunately I pretty much never do) then I'll eat it. If something isn't making me feel good, I'm going to stop it.

And ... it's working! I feel so much better about myself now than I did last year. Tick.


2) I'm getting rid of things that aren't helping the cause.

While training for a marathon and other high impact forms of exercise are fun, they're not helpful.

While the occasional (regular) glass (bottle) of wine is enjoyable, it's also not helpful. It's been 22 days since my last drink, yeehah!! I'm also cutting out stress as much as possible. That's definitely not helping.


3) ... And I'm doing things that are helping!

I've taken up Barre class which I love. So much so that I'm going to do my instructor training next month :) I'm also focussing on getting more sleep, eating better and being in the best possible physical health that I can be.


4) I'm working on my mindset.

I have a coach who has helped me make a lot of these changes and allowed me to really get clear on what I want and how I can get there. I am also reading feverishly about how to improve my state of mind and not get so caught up in other people's crap (massive issue of mine). Let's call that a work in progress.


5) I'm approaching fertility treatment with a relaxed state-of-mind.

Anyone who has been through IVF will know that it's not easy. It's bloody hard. I'm really trying to not be so hung up on the outcome, but rather give it our best shot and see what happens. Easier said than done!? Hopefully not.

Thank God I have my little buddy to hold my hand and give me loads of cuddles through this process! #loveher #angeladams

And this guy. Legend. Tobes can't always understand how I'm feeling when it comes to treatment, hormones, mindset and so on, but he can definitely empathise and the more open we are, the better.


So, where are we at with treatment?

Well firstly we decided to give The Stork Conception Aid a bit of a whirl this week. Tobes and I haven't laughed so hard for a long time. It's not the most romantic of experiences, but if it works who cares! We also went to a new specialist, Dr Devora Lieberman who works at Genea. Fresh start, fresh clinic. So far so great! Really looking forward to getting started.


More on treatment in the next blog. Just saying hi for now!

Catch you next time,

Phoebe xx


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